a little secret...

I am gonna let y’all in on a little secret, something folk either never figured out or have forgotten amid all the examining…

Porn? Porn is supposed to be “bad”. Naughty. There is a reason most people hide their dirty magazines and movies, a reason a lot of folk have special password files for their secret stashes of internet smut…and that’s because porn, my dear friends, is a guilty pleasure. A vice. A dirty little secret. Porn, you see, is supposed to be bad.

The porn industry counts on it. They make tons of money off of it. The whole concept that has been drilled into the human mind for centuries uncounted that sex is bad is what keeps porn going. And yep, you can blame men for that, after all, they are the ones who started up the main religions and codes of morality that decided sex was dirty, a bad thing, they were the ones who made up pretty much every stereotype that porn operates off of, but sure enough, enough people, male and female, feminist and un-feminist, liberal and conservative alike buy into it just enough and propogate it enough that the porn industry can still make a killing off sex being bad.

Guilt sells. Sex sells. Put the two together? Goldmine! And it amuses the hell outta me, because as someone who views porn…I can tell you this…folk don’t expect people, especially women, to be upfront and open about their use of porn. It shocks them. Intimidates them. Embarasses them. Leaves them looking like a landed fish on a really dry bank. I’ve been the only female in the adult video store. I’ve walked into a show where the guys are watching porn. And when you stroll right in and walk right over to the movie section and start perusing with a experienced customers eye, or look at the guys who are watching the flick and say “Belladonna? She rocks! I love her movies!” It leaves people speechless. Which I find terribly amusing. I admit it. But see, I don’t think sex is bad. I think sex is awesome, but hell yeah, mercenary me, I am more than happy to profit from other peoples fucked up attitudes about it.

Porn counts on the fact that a lot of people think sex is filthy, dirty, messy, immoral, animalistic and bad, no matter how hard they’ve tried to escape it. Porn gets down and dirty and campy as hell. They count on the Madonna/whore complex. They put bank on the concept that deep down, buried amid all our political correctness and modern intellect we still think of men as rampaging horny, mindless beasts that will stick their dicks into any woman who holds still long enough. They trust in the fact that despite all our enlightenment, we will consider any woman who spreads her legs for cash, or for multiple men a fallen woman, a slut, a tramp, a tart. They count on the fact that people will consider acts like anal, sloppy blow jobs, dp, rimming, BDSM, rough sex, fisting, ect., as things which are inherently degrading and the people who do them somehow broken, ruined, wasted and destroyed. Lesser and subhuman. Animals.

They count on the fact that what you see in porn is, in fact, not at all like what you do in your own bedroom, because porn is supposed to be bad. Over the top, vulgar, out there. In a culture which despite all the raunch and freedom and all that other crap is still really sexually repressed and conservative, porn counts on being taboo. A little raunchier, a little dirtier, a little worse. More base and crass and in your face. Even badder than the real thing. Porn squeezes the lifeblood out of these attitudes, all of them, because that, my friends, is how the industry makes money. Off of shame and guilt and all those little base dirty feelings we’re not supposed to have.

Because everyone has guilty pleasures. But most people have some visceral sexual desires too. And porn, well, porn has beautifully (or, in manners most ugly), combined the two, given it slick packaging, and sold the worlds sexual repression and stereotypes and bullshit right back to it at quite a markup.

It’s so fucking simple, and so fucking brilliant. And it works.

So yeah, porn is supposed to be bad, and so long as certain folks continue to hold a whole lot of attitudes, it will continue to be. And some of us, well, we’ll be over here. Smirking. Being a filthy whore pays, because people can’t get over the attitude that fucking is somehow bad.

Ha. Hahahhahhaahha. All the way to the motherfucking bank.

*edit, before anyone gets their kickers in a twist and says "what about....(insert porn genre here) I am talking about mainstream het gonzo type of porn...